"He's so realistic, we have to show someone!"
May 12, 2025
(Updated May 31, 2026)
The Big Daddy is the first QUTOYS dildo I’ve tried and long story short, love him! His big size, soft outer layer with a firm erect core for easier riding and thrusting, and realistic details with veins and coloration all come together for a great big dildo.
Big Daddy is recommended if you’re looking for:
- A very realistic (in all but size) and thick dildo!
- A head that is not too pronounced
- P/G-spot curve of the shaft
- Large ball(s) to bottom out/grind on, hold on to, and/or squish
- Suction cup base
Banana for scale, kind of matches Big Daddy’s nice curve!
Dimensions (inches):
Total length 10”, insertable length 8”
Max shaft circumference 8.5” (~2.6”x2.8” widths)
Weight of 2.8 lb
Big Daddy’s tip starts at ~6.5” circumference, widening to 7” circumference around the glans, then quickly widening to the thick max circumference of 8.5” partway down the shaft. Narrowing slightly to 8” circumference near the base, if able to take him that far to provide a bit of relief and feeling of a mid-shaft swell locking in.
Firmness/Material:
Silicone (platinum-cured) dual density (soft outer layer ~shore 0030 but not specified, with firm/rigid inner core)
Skin-safe mineral based pigments used for coloring
Big Daddy is not the first dildo I’ve ever had, and at this size you definitely want some prior experience to be able to take him! He’s quite large at 8.5” circumference and ~8” insertable length. Realistic is also not an understatement, my partner was genuinely shocked just how realistic Big Daddy is when I first opened the package, their first words were along the lines of “he’s so realistic we have to show someone!!”
Down to business (pleasure really). I first took, or rather Big Daddy took me, from behind in standing doggy position. I mounted him on the wall and the suction cup held him in place very well, not budging despite his large size and weight! I did this standing over a mirror on the ground so I could see him enter me as that’s part of the excitement, especially with a realistic one like Big Daddy. I grind on him a bit at the entrance, then back my ass up, Big Daddy opening up my hole as he enters me and I moan in pleasure. He is so thick and filling... I slowly back up and down on him, getting used to his size filling me up, then I start thrusting on him faster and faster. His erect curve perfectly hitting my prostate as I thrust my ass back and forth over him. Then I moved Big Daddy to the ground and rode him in cowboy position to completion, I didn’t last long before an intense finish with his satisfying girth stretching me out!
Both the appearance and feel of Big Daddy are very realistic. The overall realistic sculpt with the details adding even more realism with skin folds, textured veins, some colored veins/blood vessels giving the appearance of being under the outer surface (not sure if they are painted just under or on top the surface), and Big Daddy’s pink/reddish tip.
The feel is a softer skin-like outer layer that can be squeezed and a firm, erect inner layer from the dual-density construction. I don’t have a shore durometer to measure the exact shore firmness of the outer layer, but based on the tip squishiness I estimate it to be around Shore 0030. The tip is almost entirely squishy, I had to double-check my own penis when erect to confirm that yes, the tip does stay mostly squishy when erect!
The shaft has a bit less squish as the outer layer is thinner compared to the firm inner core there. Then the balls are again very squishy. Midway along the shaft it still has a little squish along the sides and topside of the shaft, with the underside of the shaft having a bit more of a squish. Towards the very base of the shaft it has almost no squish and is mostly rigid, where it gets slightly thinner from 8.5” down to 8” circumference.
The design of the tip/head has the topside of the coronal ridge/glans kind of meld into the skin folds underneath giving it a nice appearance but a more subtle entrance, compared to pronounced ridge that would give more of a rubbing sensation. The underside of the head is a bit more pronounced ridge-wise to give a little of that sensation, but with the softness is not intense, before getting to Big Daddy’s more intense and less forgiving girth!
The package from QUTOYS arrived in an unmarked, plain brown cardboard box. Inside was the QUTOYS branded box which just has a Q logo and slight rainbow border. The only marking indicating what was inside was “B.D” labeled on the side for Big Daddy. So, anyone else who saw the package would be none the wiser! The dildo itself was inside in a plain, sealed plastic bag.
Being my first toy from QUTOYS and having not heard of them myself at the time, when they reached out to me to review one of their dildos, I decided to do some at-home testing before using it. QUTOYS has actually been around since 2015 but seems to have really started blowing up recently! To test if he is in fact silicone as far as I can determine from at-home testing, even being so realistic looking and feeling.
There was no odor to the Big Daddy dildo when I had first opened him up, which is always a good sign. But, for a more thorough silicone test I also used the flame test and tried lighting him on fire (for science? Sorry Big Daddy!) and as far as I can tell he passed and is in fact silicone, which is not always necessarily clear cut but based on the deciphering of flame tests from Dangerous Lilly (linked through web archive as it appears their site is no longer active).
Video of my flame test is here on Reddit (1.5x speed)
First holding the flame to the base of the dildo below the balls, where the silicone is very firm it did not really react to the flame at all, no bubbling or initial scorching at all which is pretty much to be expected for very firm silicone. Now the very soft and squishy silicone area on the top of the balls did scorch more and bubble a little bit but no odor as a result was detectable. This result is also not entirely unexpected as this is how silicone oils can react to open flames. Very squishy silicone areas will have a higher amount of softening silicone oils (I didn’t want to try burning the insertable area of the shaft as 100% silicone can still have some scorching remain, especially for soft silicone). Non-bodysafe materials would instead melt or carry a flame (catch on fire). Most of the scorching also washed off easily afterward. All this to say, Big Daddy seems to have passed the silicone flame test! (Note this does not differentiate between platinum-cured silicone and other silicone, I believe that can only be done through proper lab testing)
Disclaimer: This toy was provided in exchange for my honest review and contains affiliate links.